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Episode 12: 4 Tips For Dogs Who Deviate From Your Plan

Training Priorities Matrix

Not all training scenarios are created equal. Use this matrix to figure out which situations to tackle first — and which ones can wait.

Plot your different separation scenarios on this grid. Think about every situation where your dog needs to be alone: when you go to work, when your partner leaves, weekday evenings, weekends. Each scenario might land in a different spot.

Importance to you

Low High

Ease for your dog

Dog does better, low priority

This one could be easier to pick off. Tackle it when you need some motivation.

e.g. When my partner leaves

Dog does better, high priority

This could be a great place to start!

e.g. Wednesday evenings

Dog does worse, low priority

Come back to this later in training.

e.g. Sunday evening

Dog does worse, high priority

If you’re up for a challenge, tackle this scenario first.

e.g. Saturday when the kids go to sports

How to use this

  1. List every situation where your dog is left alone (or with a different person).
  2. For each one, ask: How important is this to me? (Does it affect my daily life? Can I work around it?)
  3. Then ask: How does my dog do in this scenario? (Are they relatively calm, or do they really struggle?)
  4. Plot each scenario on the grid. Start training with the top-right quadrant — scenarios that matter most to you and that your dog already handles reasonably well.

Listen to the full episode for more on this topic:

Episode 12: 4 Tips For Dogs Who Deviate From Your Plan →
Julie Naismith

Written by Julie Naismith

Dog separation anxiety specialist. 15 years of experience, 100,000+ guardians helped, author of four books, and creator of the Be Right Back program.

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